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3 Reasons Why Your Unhappy and How To Fix It

Life is hard enough as it is, so why make things harder than they have to be. Below I listed a few things that may be causing your unhappiness that you may not have thought of. I believe everyone has at least one of these things that they can work on to live a happier life.

1. Low Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is how you handle things emotionally. I believe everyone needs to work on their emotional intelligence.
If you are the type of person that flies off the handle after an irritating thing happens, or you tend to make mountains out of mull hills during an argument,  you probably have low Emotional Intelligence.
 I had low emotional intelligence for a long time until I found this self-help book that opened my eyes. I always just thought I was a stubborn person and moody, but I felt really unhappy when I would get so upset over silly things,  or start fuming because I accidentally dropped something. I know it sounds extreme but that's how I was, and I thought it was normal. I wasn't the type of person that seeks out self-help things to help with my problems. Luckily I gave it a shot. In the book The Mindfulness playbook, it talked about Emotional Intelligence  ( or EQ) being a big key to happiness. EQ is not the same as IQ. You can be extremely smart but still, have low EQ.

The good news is,  there is a way to improve your EQ. To grow your EQ, you need to work on noticing when your starting to get upset. When you feel that anger or frustration,  you need to quickly take a few deep breaths and just focus on your breathing. Doing that will help your body relax and your mind calm down.  After about 10 seconds of just focusing on your breathing,  you can reassess the situation that made you upset in the first place. Most of the time,  you will see that it really isn't worth getting so upset over and you will be able to handle it better.  That is growing your EQ, and in return help, you be happier. 

2. You're stuck in the same boring routine

You may not have noticed but sometimes doing the exact same thing every day can get boring, and usually, boredom leads to being unhappy. A great way to change up your routine is to just do something differently. If you eat breakfast in your car,  wake up 5 minutes earlier to eat at home, or drink your morning coffee outside before you leave for work,  these Little things can break up the monotony of your daily routine and give you something to look forward to during the week. If you're like me, little things don't do that much to fix the issue.  When I'm bored with my routine,  I go out and learn a new hobby, or read a book about a subject I've been interested in but haven't gotten around to.

Something to live by when you're trying to change up your life is D.I.D. it means Do It Differently.  If you drive the same way to work every day,  do it differently by looking for a different route to drive.
I also like to use D.I.D. for bad habits like swearing, if I stub my toe my first reaction is to spout off a swear word. Now that I notice this bad habit it makes it easier in those situations to D.I.D.  I'll stop my self from saying anything,  or replace with a better word like "ouch".
Try finding a bad habit that you don't like about yourself,  work on catching yourself doing it,  and then D.I.D. trust me,  you will find satisfaction in it. Which will help you feel happier!

3. You haven't found your passion 

I think finding your passion is one of the most important things you can do in your life. If you don't know what your passionate about,  I suggest trying to figure it out by taking classes, trying new hobbies, or even volunteering. 
It took me 25 years to figure out being a life coach is what I am passionate about. I have always been the person who wants to help people.  I am the person who my friends and family seek out to talk about their problems,  or just have someone listen. I enjoy it too.
 I also love fostering dogs.  I work with a local rescue,  they show me a list of dogs that need to be fostered and I'm able to choose what dog will work with our family the best.  It's an odd thing I know,  but it just feels great knowing I saved a dog from a high kill shelter and gave my personal dog a dog friend to play with. I'd suggest trying it out if you're a dog person! They also have a cat and other animal rescues that you can foster animals for.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and I hope these tips will help you enjoy life a little more. 
If you have a question you want me to talk about,  please email me! Next week ill tell you a little about me and what else has helped me have a happier life.
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  1. Thanks for this inspiring article the one that hits me is number1 i think i need some time alone right now

  2. Totally agree with this. Finding passion is a lot of help to build happy lifestyle.

  3. A very interesting take on why [people become unhappy..


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