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Can You Really Control Your Anxiety?

I love the fact that I've finally pushed through my issues enough to become a life coach.  I definitely am not perfect,  or completely over my anxiety and depression,  but I can finally manage it enough to do the things I want with my life.

After my last post I sent out,  I started feeling my anxiety coming back up. I heard the voices in my head questioning me.
"Are you really good enough?"
"No one is going to listen to you."
 "Might as well just give up now,  your not good enough for this."

I couldn't listen to it anymore.  I did some calming breathing exercises to clear my head and told myself that I am not my thoughts. I've come this far, I need to see this through to prove my anxiety does not control me.

So here I am! I'm pushing through my anxiety to do something I know I can do. And enjoy my life doing something I love.
If I can at least help one person feel more fulfilled in their life,  then I feel I have done my job.


Anyway, I want to discuss Anxiety and ways you can control it.

Anxiety affects around 18% of adults between ages 18-54 in the U.S.
It's something that can run your life, and make you miserable if you don't do anything about it.

Read your emotions

One thing you can do for yourself is read your own emotions. 
Easy right? No, it's really not. It took me forever to even realize I had anxiety. When I was younger I just didn't pay attention to myself and what I needed. So my anxiety kept getting worse,  and I didn't do a thing about it. 
A geat way to start reading your emotions,  is to ground yourself in every situation. Try to analyze how your body feels in every emotion your feeling. Joy,  anger, sadness.

 I've noticed for me, anger will trigger my anxiety. The anxiety then uses my anger to get extremely worked up,  and then I just lose all control of my emotions. 
 Now that I'm able to notice that,  I'm able to ground myself once I start to feel angry. That gives me control of my anger,  and helps me stop any anxiety attack I might have. 

When you're able to figure out what your feeling as it happens, you will be able to pinpoint your triggers to anxiety. That is the first step in calming your anxiety. 


Figure out how to cope

If you already know your triggers, then you need to find the right coping strategy to calm it before it gets out of hand. 
The way I calm myself is by using breathing exercises. When I calm myself and am able to think more clearly,  I'm able to make better decisions despite my anxiety and be who I chose to be. I don't allow my anxiety to make me the way it wants. 



If you can identify how your feeling,  and figure out why your feeling that way,  your mind will start expanding and be more capable of handling those intense emotions. 
When that happens,  you might notice your anxieties or stresses will get easier to control. And I feel like that's the ultimate goal. If you can control that, you're going to be happier. 

 If you want to be in control,  make a goal of identifying your emotions as they are happening. Try to get in tune with your body. Notice when you feel anxious, understand what feelings are behind it, and what has caused it. 
I want you to do that with good feelings as well. Notice what makes you smile (a genuine smile), and how it feels inside. Practicing this will help you notice and appreciate the good things that happen in your day. 

It sounds easy but it really isn't.  To try to achieve that goal, you have to focus on everything going on. you can't just put yourself on autopilot like we all tend to do


I'd love to hear from you if you have anxiety,  how do you cope with it? If you haven't found a good way to cope,  I'd love to give suggestions to see if they help you. Contact me and we can chat about it! 


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