How to Boost your Self Confidence

I was walking my dogs around my neighborhood yesterday and every time I would walk past someone, I'd analyze how I was walking.  making sure I wasn't walking funny,  or doing something weird that someone might look at and judge me for.  
Then I started thinking,  is there really a right way to walk? Why should I be so concerned about what these people see anyway? 
The chattering thoughts in our heads tell us that people are constantly looking at us, constantly judging us for every move we make. 
Do I notice people walking their dogs when I'm outside? Sometimes, but do I evaluate them on what they are doing with their hands, or how they walk.. usually not, unless they are trying to do something that doesn't look right.. which doesn't happen very often. 

Everyone deals with being self-conscious. I believe self-consciousness can be a good or bad thing depending on what you do with it. It's people with mental disorders such as anxiety,  and depression that get the bad part of being self-conscious. These people are more likely to listen and believe the negative chattering thoughts in their heads.

The good news is, even if you are very negatively self conscious, you can do a few things to help.

Comparing Yourself to Others:

With social media being so popular,  it's hard not to follow your friend's lives and be envious of what they might have that you don't. Thinking that others may be better than you,  or have more than you will erode your self-confidence. 

Try to remember that everyone is running their own race and life isn't a competition. 

Challenge Your Thoughts:

Sometimes the chattering voices will try to put you down. They might tell you your not good enough for that promotion, or that you're too out of shape to work out. Challenge those thoughts by doing what your brain says you can't do!
 It's ok to make mistakes or to be anxious sometimes. The most successful people had to make a lot of mistakes to get to where they are. 

Don't let your thoughts make you someone you're not. 

Take Care of Yourself:

Taking care of yourself both physically and mentally is the most important thing you can do. If your or if shape, you're going to be self-conscious about it. Start exercising and give yourself some goals to work toward. When you accomplish a goal it will build your confidence in yourself. 
Make sure you continue to read books and teach yourself new things. When your growing your knowledge your not focused on everything that's wrong with you,  your focus on the subject your learning. Plus I feel like when I learn something new,  I'm more confident in having conversations with others. 

Being negative toward yourself will only hurt you more. So make sure you are staying positive when you mess up.

If you can work on these things,  you will find that you won't be as negatively self conscious. You will be proud of yourself and feel confident in yourself.

Thanks for reading my blogs! I'd love to hear from my readers so please comment with ways you have found to help build your self-confidence. Or feel free to ask questions. I will always respond! 

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  1. I agree! Taking care of yourself is so important for good health!

  2. The best thing about growing older (almost 50 now) is that I've really stopped caring what other people think! Gaining confidence takes time and practice.

  3. These days I really lack self-confidence. Social media to blame- so many of my friends got married, engaged or got well-paid jobs that it just makes me feel miserable. Trying to overcome that but in vain.

  4. Having self confidence is so important. It not only reflects the way we see ourselves but the way others see us. Taking care or yourself and loving yourself unconditionally are good ways to build your self confidence.

  5. These are such good tips. Over The last few years I’ve built my confidence using techniques similar to these also using affirmations and visualisation too. There are so many ways to build you confidence 💗


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