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Don't Let the Mom Guilt Stop You



I'm one of those crazy moms who puts her kids to bed at 7. Do you know how wonderful it is to put your kids to bed at 7? It's freaking amazing!
I need my alone time. It helps me recuperate from all the whining I endured throughout the day. My quiet time is a sacred time. My husband has to do his OCD rituals starting at 7 pm, so I get about 2 hours of quiet time to myself. (Sometimes less depending on my husband's OCD or the kid's temper)
 Does that sound selfish? I always felt like it was selfish until I realized I truly needed that time to help me be a better mom.  

I have two kids, they are amazing,  funny,  creative, and so freaking cuddly. I love it! But these kids are also going through some difficult years learning how to express their emotions.. if you have kids, you know what I'm talking about. It gets exhausting having one kid cling to you all day, and the other one pulling curtains off the wall. (This happened today and I'm not too happy about it). Or telling you he just "can't" clean up his toys... I'm surprised the kid is able to do anything on his own because he just "can't" do anything I ever ask him. I won't even go into what I had to clean up in my youngest kids room yesterday...

As moms, we need to take a break now and then. Enjoy some quiet time to ourselves without the mom guilt.
If you don't take much time for yourself. It's time to start for the sake of keeping you sane.


When it's my time to relax I love to go outside and read. My neighborhood is really quiet most of the time so it's really relaxing. 
I also like to write on my blog or do some crafts. I wish I had more time for those things,  but I'll take what time I can get. 

Unfortunately, my oldest hasn't been allowing me to have time to myself. He keeps opening his door and whining as loud as he can until I come back to his room. The other night it took him 3 hours to go to sleep! I've been losing my mind without having that quiet time. I guess I shouldn't complain much, 
but I feel like I'm slowly losing my mind.
Have I mentioned I'm obsessed with Jim Carrey? He is awesome. 

So to all the burnt out moms, hang in there and ask for a break! Your husband can take over for a few hours without the world ending. If you're a single mom, get those kids to bed early and take some time for yourself. Were raising kids, so we need to be somewhat sane to do that successfully. 


What do you do to stay sane? Give some ideas that other mom's out there can try if they get some quiet time to themselves.

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  1. I am sorry to hear that as moms it can be a struggle but nice post on how to overcome.

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  2. This is very empowering for other mom's to know that they aren't alone in feeling burnt out. Thanks for sharing and I hope you get some relief soon.

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    1. Thanks. I know so many no CS that never take to be for themselves because they thinkit's unfair to their kids. We all need a breather occasionally

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  3. Moms also need time alone, it is a struggle but they shouldnt feel guilty.

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    1. I agree. It's so hard not to feel guilty sometimes even when we shouldn't feel that way just to get some time to ourselves

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  4. i absolutely agree!! me time is so important

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  5. Me time as a mom is super necessary. Me trips is also good if possible. Mothers do a lot, and so me time is a way to clear your head and gain more energy for the next day. Motherhood is a blessing and also great, but mothers need to take care of themselves as well. Thanks for sharing.

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  6. Read about all the mental stress moms go through while raising kids and still wonderfully keep their calm.

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  7. Firstly, I would like to appreciate the way you share your experiences and your openness. Its not an easy journey many a times and it is very important to take care of oneself, as a parent, partner, child and a friend. Life may not offer the best of circumstances but as you rightly said, it is important to make the best of what we are into! Kudos to you to be an inspiration to moms and make them think differently !

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  8. Because of the new generation technology, raising kids gets more harder. great tips, Serena.

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  9. My mother same as yours I have a little brother she's so stress. then My sister and I we decide to treat my mom to the restaurant and go to the spa for vendosa she deserves a break also all mothers they deserve to take a break for the short time :)

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  10. Summer Mitch RyanAugust 7, 2018 at 2:01 AM

    Seven? Wow! Wish I could do that. Think it's impossible for my little ones. But,yeah, we certainly need a time for ourselves to keep our sanity intact.

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  11. I am not a mum yet. but I think if you have some private time for yourself, it will be great.

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  12. I would never agree to go to bed at 7. but I do not disturb my mom at night so hope that she feels relaxed everyday.

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  13. Moms do need a me time and I do things the way my mom would want me to do so that she gets enough relaxation

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  14. i am burnt out teacher but that is because I have summer school with kids who I don't teach all time. There is one boy who just does whatever he wants and it is the opposite of what you expect in the classroom. And, he can't listen well.

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  15. Of course not. You should be always proud of yourself as a mom. ut your best foot forward

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  16. Motherhood is indeed incredible. Not a mom yet but I have seen my sister who has a five year old and how she enjoys being a mother taking out some lone time for herself. I loved reading your post.

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