Life is full of stereotypes and silly expectations. In America, society believes you need to make a 6 figure income and live in a big house with nice cars and have every gadget in the world.
My husband and I grew up in a more wealthy area but still grew up with really different ideas of the world. My husbands parents were middle class, they had the nice house that they updated every few years, they would take their 4 kids on family vacations to New York, Chicago, Boston. Any big city you can name they went.
My family was also middle class. My mom and stepfather were also middle class raising 9 children in one house. We had an old 70's home, and our vacations would be to Lake Powell
Lake Powell is one of my favorite places.
Occasionally I'd get to go on a vacation to Mexico, just because I was the youngest and most of my siblings were moved out by then.
But for the most part, my family didn't have a ton of extra money to spend to get all the nicest things or update our old home.
Now that I'm an adult I definitely see that I was blessed to have the things I did. My husband and I do alright but we aren't at the same level as our parents were.
My husband constantly compares our kid's life to how he grew up. He only sees what we aren't able to give them.
So whose life is he living? Because it's not for him. He is living for the stereotype.
When people choose to live for someone else's opinion on how we should live, they end up depressed and unhappy with their life.
The last few years I've been learning more about the world, and the life I want. I don't choose to live for that stereotype. I try to live as minimalistic as I can. Only buy the things I actually need and don't worry about the rest.
I try to encourage my husband to save the money he would put toward buying an upgraded car, or the latest iPhone, and put it toward a family outing, or vacation.
I believe when we're old and gray and only have our memories to keep us company, we're not going to think about what type of phone we had, Or if our car had heated seats.
We are going to think about our life with our family and friends, and how we choose to live our lives.
Don't let your memories be a regret.