Who are you living your life for?



Life is full of stereotypes and silly expectations. In America,  society believes you need to make a 6 figure income and live in a big house with nice cars and have every gadget in the world. 

My husband and I grew up in a more wealthy area but still grew up with really different ideas of the world. My husbands parents were middle class,  they had the nice house that they updated every few years, they would take their 4 kids on family vacations to New York, Chicago, Boston. Any big city you can name they went. 
My family was also middle class. My mom and stepfather were also middle class raising 9 children in one house. We had an old 70's home, and our vacations would be to Lake Powell 
Lake Powell is one of my favorite places. 

Occasionally I'd get to go on a vacation to Mexico,  just because I was the youngest and most of my siblings were moved out by then.
But for the most part, my family didn't have a ton of extra money to spend to get all the nicest things or update our old home. 

Now that I'm an adult I definitely see that I was blessed to have the things I did. My husband and I do alright but we aren't at the same level as our parents were. 
My husband constantly compares our kid's life to how he grew up. He only sees what we aren't able to give them. 
So whose life is he living? Because it's not for him. He is living for the stereotype. 
When people choose to live for someone else's opinion on how we should live,  they end up depressed and unhappy with their life. 

The last few years I've been learning more about the world, and the life I want. I don't choose to live for that stereotype. I try to live as minimalistic as I can. Only buy the things I actually need and don't worry about the rest. 

 I try to encourage my husband to save the money he would put toward buying an upgraded car, or the latest iPhone, and put it toward a family outing, or vacation. 
I believe when we're old and gray and only have our memories to keep us company,  we're not going to think about what type of phone we had, Or if our car had heated seats. 
We are going to think about our life with our family and friends, and how we choose to live our lives. 
Don't let your memories be a regret.



So make sure when your feeling down about something in your life, think about who it's actually for.  Is what you want for someone else's expectation? If yes,  then let it go and find what you want. 





Comments

  1. Love this! Making memories is so much more important that having material things. My kids traveled, but it was almost always (except once) by car and most often by camping. My motto back then was “Have tent; can travel.” Because they were willing to sleep on the ground, they were able to experience a lot, especially national and state parks.

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  2. OMG you are so right about that! I think I was living for my parents approval and I see now that it goes nowhere but downhill. Thanks for sharing this.

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  3. I agree on building/making memories instead of personal wealth. I've stopped buying stuff and started spending that money on experiences and travel and am so much more fulfilled

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  4. Great blog post!! We live in a modest home and drive used cars because our priority is to travel, experience other parts of the world, and make new memories!

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  5. very rightly said! In fact I had written a blog on similar lines a while ago - sharing with you. Do read if you feel like it. https://tripleamommy.com/2018/03/07/mumma-what-is-success/

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  6. Making memories is what life is all about, money will come and go.

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  7. I totally agree! It's way more important to me to take a big vacation every year rather than upgrade my car to a newer, less junky looking model. But my car runs fine and gets me from point A to point B, and it's 100% mine with no payments. There's no sense in buying a new one when I can redirect that money towards future vacations.

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  8. I absolutely agree that memories worth treasuring is way better than material things.Specially fast depreciating things.

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  9. I think a lot of it is instant gratification - getting the latest stuff. Makes people feel good for that second. We have to work on long term happiness like you said creating memories and experiences.

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  10. Enjoying life matters a lot. Other things will come and go

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  11. I completely agree, I am kind of a minimalist. These are well said. People are always manipulated with what other does. We have to live with what makes us happy. We tend to spend on unecessary things and at the end of the month we a penniless and not using what we bought

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  12. True, you lost your life the moment you live up to every one else's expectations.

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  13. I used to live on other people's expectations. That got me nowhere. For 3 years now, I am doing all the things I think will benefit me and secure my future. If I fail, at least I tried! Great post. Have a nice day!

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  14. I love this post because I know exactly how it feels to want to stay minimalistic. My mother grew up raising us (including me 6 of us) basically mostly by herself. She would always spend money on what was needed, and if we wanted something we would have to have the money ourselves. For example if we would get money sent to us from our dad on our birthdays she would tell us to do whatever we wanted with that money, and of course we were young so we would spend it on what we wanted whether it was candy or something else. As I got older I wanted what everyone else had and I had to learn the hard way, that was not good. Now that I am older I do not care for expensive things or the latest trends, in fact I don't like expensive things I like cheaper things not because I cant afford it but because it is what I prefer and when people tell me all the time I should have what everyone else have, or I should wear what everyone else is wearing, I should basically follow the trend, I basically just walk away from those types of people because I like to live my life according to myself, If I want something cheap i'll get it, if I want to save up and not spend it on the latest iPhone and other things then so be I prefer to live simple

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  15. You have put it aptly when you say, "When people choose to live for someone else's opinion on how we should live, they end up depressed and unhappy with their life." It is important to make choices wisely.

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  16. This is beautiful. I definitely believe in creating memories rather than having big cars or houses. The world today puts too much pressure on us to buy, buy, buy. Just ridiculous, if you really look at all you have, you'd realise you have more than enough already!

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  17. It is indeed a sad situtation as success is being measured by how many cars, houses and followers you have.

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  18. We r so busy keeping up with the rat race that we forget to live for ourselves. We have begun loving and living our life as we want

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  19. Great post. traveling is such an important part of making memories as a family

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  20. I can't agree enough that experiences will prove way more valuable when it's all said and done. They are more easily shared with others and will last much longer than material things.

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  21. I am living my life for my children. I can not imagine my life without them. I find that I always put others before myself and have a hard time just doing something for myself. I feel like helping others makes me happy.

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  22. At the end of the day, new cars, new gadgets, and ton more materials things just couldn't suffice. We all need something more than that.

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  23. This is exactly what I feel. I am also a minimalist and I feel that memories and experiences will last longer than materialistic things.

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  24. I too prefer creating memories and experiences than buying things. I once had a quarrel with a friend who prefered to fill up his house with stuffs than creating memories. We were sort of dating, but since we couldn't always reach a compromise at to when and what to buy things we had to go our separate ways.
    Experiences in the end always prove more valuable than accumulating things we might not even use a few years down the line.

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  25. Aaaawwwwwww....bless your heart for this one! It's a sweet one.

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