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Blended Family Mess



I have found that when you have a big family,  there are bound to be problems between family members.  

My family is what they call a "Blended family". Meaning I have half and step siblings, and a stepdad.  
It's been like that since I was 2 years old.  My mom had 4 of my siblings with her first husband, who unfortunately died young. After 6 years she then had me. My parents were never together but I still got to grow up with my dad a lot.  When I turned two,  my mom married my stepdad.  My stepdad had 4 kids of his own. 
So I grew up the youngest of 9. Everyone else was 6+ years older than me so I was always kind of out of the loop of things.  I was not usually part of the drama. Although, I did have my own drama with certain siblings every once in a while. 



Having a big family can have its perks. Every Christmas it would feel like we had this huge Christmas.  So many presents were under the tree. (I feel bad for my parent that had to fork out all that money for us though)

Because I was the youngest,  I got to go on a lot more trips and things than my other siblings.  

It was just awesome having someone gone to hang out with. 

But there are downsides as well. 
Being the youngest,  no one wanted to do much with me

I had to fend for myself a lot. 

And I was always left out of the loop because.. why tell the young one about the problems? 

Now that we're all grown up and adults with our own families,  there are still problems that arise.  I'm still left out of the loop. 

I'm not sure if it's just that all big families come with problems,  or if most all families are like that.  



If you have similar issues,  all I can say is try to stay out of the drama.  I usually am a neutral party in the family.  My siblings and I don't end up with big fights between us.  It's always me hearing about some of my siblings not getting along.  
I prefer it that way anyway.  I have no time to deal with any drama. I've got my own kids to deal with. 

Any of my readers have big families? I would love to hear your point of view of your family.  If you have drama problems like I do, or if your family can stand to be around each other without picking a fight. 


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