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Always The 3rd Wheel



I feel like the 3rd wheel in my new friendship with a couple of new ladies I recently met. We all met around the same time,  but the other two ladies do a lot more stuff together it seems like.  
It makes me feel like crap when they talk together about something they did together the day before. 
 Should it offend me they don't reach out? Isn't it just friendship courtesy to extend the invite out even if you know the person can't go? 
I don't know how to be the person that people feel close to.



It's weird when the thoughts of jealousy first started coming to me, It was a lot easier to brush off. But a few weeks later and the jealousy has gotten way worse.  I wonder if it's really worth having friends if I get these negative feelings... 


Have you ever thought.. 
Will I always be the 3rd wheel? Will I never have a close friend? Why does everyone else have such an easy time making friends but it's almost impossible for me? 

It really sucks to feel like that. But this is the year to make goals to make new friends and improve current friendships.



If you are an introverted homebody like myself, you definitely need to make a friendship goal this year.    

I'm very quiet and reserved so it's very hard for me to make new friends. So I really have to step out of my comfort zone to talk to people and try to make a friendship.  But I plan to find things I like doing,  like free community classes, or go to a fitness class and really making an effort to talk to people and find new friendships. 


Although I feel like a 3rd wheel,  I'm not going to give up on these new friends.
In the past, I would have already been done with the friendship and be just bitter about it. 
But I'm done with those bad habits.  I'm going to make an effort to make myself more available,  and invite these ladies to do things with me instead of just waiting around for an invite from them.  

My husband got me a night at a hotel just by myself to give me a break from the kids,  so I put myself out there and awkwardly invited them to join me for dinner that night. 
They said yes! So I'm hoping I can continue to find extra moments to build better friendships.


Do you have trouble making friends as an adult? Id love to chat about your experiences of friendships.





A couple friendship quotes I found here




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