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And The Winner of the Fight is...

About a week ago I had this extremely bad fight with my husband.  One I didn't think we would bounce back from.  

Two weeks ago I started taking a new medication that has really been messing with my memory and mood and it's been awful, and although our marriage is far from perfect and I'm good at picking fights,  I still feel like it was partly because of this new medication that this particular fight got so out of hand.  

Being with someone who has a mental illness is emotionally draining,  it's also emotionally draining to be a parent,  and very emotionally draining to have mental illnesses... when you're dealing with all 3, you will often find yourself running on empty... for a very very long time.  

Anyway,  I have this tendency to be extra mean when I'm angry at my spouse.  Anyone else like that? Like he will say something rude that just sets me off and I will just say any mean thing I can think of until he backs the F off. 

I just have to be right. The winner of the fight. 
I know I need to just need to be nice instead of being right... so I'm going to use that as a mantra next time my hubby tries to say something that will make me want to throw something at him. 

The good news is,  we have worked out our issues like we always do and we're doing just fine. 
Unfortunately,  I'm still on that stupid medication and have wonderful mood swings.

Do you ever have a hard time keeping your cool with your spouse during a fight? Do you just have to be right? Or are you a better person than I am? 😄




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